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How Do You Get Through To Your Husband?

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Is your husband in a bubble displaying a no entry sign sticker?

Is your husband in a bubble displaying a no entry sign sticker?

I mean, how the heck do you burst your husband’s bubble in order to get him to listen to you?

Curious to know how? Read on. 

I have clients telling me they have tried every trick in the book from laying down the law, writing a list of rules and agreements with serious conditions.

However, all this is short lived; the conditions get broken and the...

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My Husband Is So Lazy!

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Help, my husband is so lazy!

Why do I always find myself having to do all the thinking in my marriage?

Why can’t he just think for a change? Why can’t he just do things himself without needing a reminder every single time? I have enough to think about than having to churn out a list of reminders every day.

Honestly, sometimes I just feel like a parrot, “Can you do this; can you do that."  Like, the ‘can do’ list is never ending from grocery shopping,...

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Trapped In A Cage...

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At the age of fourteen, I found out my parents had arranged my marriage since the day I had been born.  I had no choice; it was a done deal. I was robbed twenty one years of my life keeping everybody else happy. I was so deeply unhappy at the time that I was inspired to write this poem.

 

TRAPPED IN A CAGE 

Decisions have been made,

How I am going to be caught,

Like a bird in a cage

I am cleverly trapped.

 

How can I possibly escape?

Family, relatives all happy

Celebrating...

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"I am tired of walking on eggshells…"

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“I am tired of walking on eggshells…” are the words of one of my clients.

She described her relationship with her husband as being full of anxiety and paranoia.

She pretended to be happy but inside felt scared, always on the edge, never knowing what to expect, not knowing what mood she was going to find her husband in from day to day. His worst mood was when he would just put her down for no reason, making her feel unworthy and unloved.

The situation was so bad she felt she...

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If Only He Would Help A Bit More…

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"I am so tired and fed up of spinning my hamster wheel."

I hear this a lot from women who are constantly spinning their wheels and in need of their husband to just take a bit more responsibility around the house. They find themselves forever performing a juggling act between the kids, home and work. Couple or me time is just non-existent!

Do you find yourself saying, “If only he would help a bit more,” “If only he would listen and understand how I feel…”? ...

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I Don't Want A Divorce

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During one of my sessions, I heard one of my clients say, “I don’t want a divorce, but my husband is really stressing me out."

I am just getting tired of his childish behaviour which is really weighing me down.

He acts so selfish, expecting me to be a housemaid, waiting on him hands and foot but I really did not sign up for that role. Why can’t he just appreciate what I am doing and be grateful.

Robina, I really want to make this marriage work, but we keep arguing about what...

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The Secret Formula To Marital Bliss…

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I used to dream that when I got married to the man of my dreams that I would be happy and live in perfect marital bliss for the rest of my life.  

Then I got married and my dream was shattered.  

I mean, literally shattered.

Every time my husband didn’t do something what I asked him to or he refuse to listen to anything I had to say, then I would change so quickly. I mean, literally change.

The nearest example I can give is a bit like Bill Bixby who played the acting role of...

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Save Your Marriage

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Are you unhappy in your marriage and struggling with communication, in-laws, intimacy or any other marital problem?

Maybe you are experiencing betrayal and find it difficult to trust your husband again.

Do you feel frustrated and exhausted in trying to make your husband listen and understand you, but end up being in a battle zone most of the time?

Perhaps you are being ignored and feel unappreciated for all the effort you put into the relationship but always end up getting nothing back.

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Are You Trapped In The Blame Game?

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Are you in a blame game relationship?

Do you find yourself constantly being blamed for every little thing that goes wrong? No matter what happens, it is somehow “never his fault.”

You are not alone. Let me share with you what happened not too long ago…

My husband and I decided that we were going to repaint the interior of our house and bought some lovely paint. Coming out of the car, my husband dropped the tin of paint onto the pavement near to where I was standing. I just...

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How I Saved My Marriage Without Waiting For My Husband To Change

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I fell in love with the man of my dreams and married him with the blessings of my family.

However, soon into the marriage we started to have problems. I am not going to list them all here but one of the biggest was communication.

I mean, why was it that my husband refused to talk about things that really mattered, and, which always got swept under the carpet? Why would he not listen to what I had to say and understand how I felt? Honestly, I might as well have been speaking to a brick wall....

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